Unreasonable Parents Demand Son Cancel His Wedding, Leave His Fiancé, And Drop Out Of School

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    Font - r/entitledparents u/Totalwink • 18h + Join 1 S 7 My (28m) parents tried to cancel the wedding with my fiancé (25f) the day before my birthday and over the time we were celebrating Christmas. M IN SUMMERY: We went home to celebrate my birthday and Christmas, while my family said they would help pay for our wedding which ended in them staging an "intervention" that would have broken us up and left my fiancée homeless.
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    Font - UPDATE: We made it back home. A few things to mention Sorry the formatting is terrible. :/ Our parents came to us and offered to help pay. We didn't just ask for money. They offered it after the engagement and wanted to help us out with our money. The debt is partly our fault. Granted we got our financial info stolen, got into a lawsuit with the bank for a breach of contract had expensive emergency medical expenses, and tried to get loans to help with it all. Never ever get a loan unless
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    Font - Strap in because this is a wild ride. My fiancée and my family have always been a bit rocky from when we first started dating because I came from an upper class family and she didn't. That doesn't matter to me of corse. I'm engaged and over the moon in love with this woman. Anywho, we are planning on having the wedding next year, just finished our first semester in film school and got approved for an internship for this summer. We moved out of state for school and have been there for abou
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    Font - During that time we have had some money troubles trying to make it on our own. So we were heading back down to see our family for the holidays, and we had made a point to set up a dinner so our Dads could meet with us to talk about the wedding and later on come up with a budget to get us out of some debt we accrued trying to get our ducks in a row before we get married. It sounds pretty straight forward. So we get into town, and go to dinner. My Dad, my fiancée's Dad, my mother's fiance,
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    Font - Her Dad and my fiancée and I were expecting a conversation about a wedding budget. First thing out of my parents mouths is that we should cancel the wedding altogether, keep in mind this is a full year from now after we are done with school and in our new jobs. They want the wedding called off to focus on us being more responsible with our money and they haven't even looked over our budget yet so they don't even know the bills we have to pay. Her dad, who had already paid for the venue, w
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    Font - Then my Dad said in addition to cancelling the wedding we should give up on school, he never approved of it from the get go, and move back in with him. My Mom chimed in saying that if we were having money troubles and needed their help we weren't really living on our own at all and to cut back on cost we should sell our pets. Now my fiancé has some issues when it comes to controlling her feelings. She basically went off on my parents saying how its not right for them to do this to us and
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    Font - The only thing we asked him to do was cover the catering for 70 people we invited after he said he wanted to pitch in. At dinner he said he wasn't going to throw $20,000 dollars out the window. We only asked my Dad for $3,000 after he said he wanted to contribute. He's a successful surgeon so for him 3k isn't all that much. Her Dad was contributing 5k and we didn't ask him to do anything.
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    Font - At this point dinner was a flop. Both my parents just straight up left. I though things would cool but it gets worse. The next day, after meeting with my Mom and exchanging presents, acting like dinner never happened which was odd my Dad called, he canceled Christmas at his house, said he wanted to grab coffee just me and him.
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    Font - I thought he wanted to exchange presents and talk things out. I thought to myself, alright he was pissed and has had time to cool off now he wants to go over the details. So I asked him if I could bring my Fiancée's Dad so they could have a do over. He said no. I asked him if I could bring a general budget of our finances so we could go over it and I could get some advice man-to-man. He said no. So he pulls up in his Porsche to come pick me up from my fiancée's Dads house. Doesn't even ge
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    Font - They said I can stay with them, they could drain all the bank accounts I have with her, and I could start over. They accused her of stealing cash from their house. They said she was abusive. They said I could find someone better back home. They wanted me to walk away from everything we were trying to accomplish. I could quit school there and go into a more "successful occupation". I could go back to my old job, which actually pays less that what I am making now, and start classes for an o
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    Font - SpunGoldBabyBlue · 17h W 1 Award If it wasn't for dad already having paid for the venue, I would say you should just elope. Asking parents for help setting up a budget isn't asking them to pay for it, although I doubt your parents recognize the distinction. For you and your fiancé's sanity, don't accept any funds from your family because they'll use it as an excuse to force their choices on you. Best of luck and congratulations on your engagement. 6 Reply 1 1.1k
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    Font - DTigar1 · 18h S1 Award What assholes of parents, if they're gonna act like that I'd watch it with them as they may try to sabotage your wedding, cause if I were you l'd have things set up to where even if they try they can't without your consent or knowledge, keep that in mind as a precaution. G Reply 1 872 Living-Complex-1368 · 15h Yeah, contact the venue and any other wedding providers asap and let them know that your father and mother disagree with the wedding and may try to sabotage i
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    Font - ojisan-X · 16h I just want to say that getting married is fine, but having a wedding is not mandatory, especially in a financial hardship. You can choose to have it later when you are at a better financial situation. From my limited view, you don't seem exactly financially independent. If so, l'd suggest you set some priorities. G Reply 119 Totalwink OP · 16h This is true. Hopefully a year from now when we have more well paying jobs and are more stable we can contribute to this more. That

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